A thought by Mike Bechtle from his book, Dealing with the Elephant in the Room: Moving from Tough Conversations to Healthy Communication (p. 49). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.)
Mike says, “We need to know that somebody thinks we’re okay and they accept us as we are. We don’t have to ‘clean up’ for them. They know who we are, and they still value us.
That is so true, isn’t it?
He goes on, “Our early life experiences shape our views of ourselves. If the important people in our lives offered unconditional love, we felt valued. If we didn’t experience that kind of love, we felt unaccepted and unworthy. Those early experiences follow us throughout our lives and influence the way we relate to others.
“Years ago, the book I’m OK, You’re OK quickly became a bestseller because people identified with the need for acceptance. When someone genuinely cares for us with no strings attached, we have the strength to handle the disappointments in life. Everybody needs someone who cares about them just the way they are, with no agenda.”
We really do, don’t we?
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