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A thought by Henry Cloud, from his book,  The Power of the Other (p.17). Harper Business. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) I know, I know this is a little technical, but it can also be very practical and very crucial. Henry says, “By relationship we are talking not just about hanging out with your pals in a fraternity house. We are talking about specific qualitative relational connectedness . Neuroscience has shown us that these kinds of relationships, even seemingly insignificant ones, greatly enhance performance and even help build, fuel, and sustain the physical connections hardwired in the brain. “This is why you can feel very differently and perform very differently, depending on whom you are with and what is going on in that relationship. Moreover, it is in relationships that our minds are actually built . These relationships affect not only our bodies and brains, but our mind’s abilities as well. Infants who ha...

A thought by Henry Cloud, from his book,  The Power of the Other     (p.13). Harper Business. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) And that is a very good thing. Henry says, “But . . . the relationship must be the right kind of relationship, more than just hanging out with pals. The relationship must provide very specific functions and very specific energy; it must deliver very specific constructive experiences and encode very specific information within the brains of those in the relationship. The right kinds of relationships wire us for resilience and success.” He goes on, “Daniel Siegel is a professor at UCLA and a leading neurobiologist. He is one of the scientists whose studies of the brain help elucidate how it interfaces with the aspects of life that determine our success: ​ ·       The clinical arena: how we feel, think, and behave; ·       ​The relat...

A thought by Henry Cloud, from his book,  The Power of the Other    (p.7). Harper Business. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) This is so important for us to know and understand. Henry says, “This invisible power, the power of the other, builds both the hardware and the software that leads to healthy functioning and better performance. For example, research shows over and over again that people trying to reach goals succeed at a much greater rate if they are connected to a strong human support system. Similarly, research shows that elderly who have suffered heart attacks or strokes fare much better, with lower incidence of recurrence, when they join a support group. Other research has shown that people who tap into the power of the other have stronger immune systems, tend to get sick less frequently, and recover faster when they do. Even if you eat an unhealthy diet but are part of a close-knit community, you will li...