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“We often base our relationships on inaccurate principles or myths.”

A thought by Mike Bechtle from his book, People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys(p. 34). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.)
But that’s not true of you and me, is it?Or maybe it is!
Mike clarifies what he means, “These aren’t intentional choices we make; they’re just assumptions we’ve adopted that get in the way of healthy relationships.”
He then gives us five myths about relationships.  They are:
“1. If I can convince someone of the facts, they’ll respond differently. Trying to change someone’s emotional response with logic is like fighting a kitchen grease fire with water. They just don’t mix and can cause even more flare-ups.
“2. I’ll never be happy until this relationship is fixed. This perspective allows the other person to be in charge of our emotions. It’s a reactive response that robs us of the freedom to grow and thrive. We become victims of another person’s weaknesses and choices.
“3. I…
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“We all have drama in our lives, but many people are controlled by that drama.”

A thought by Mike Bechtle from his book, People Can't Drive You Crazy If You Don't Give Them the Keys(p. 26). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.)
And that may be true of you and me.
Mike says, “Their lives and emotions seem to be at the mercy of everything that happens around them. Without realizing it, they have become victims of the weaknesses of others and their lives are controlled by those people.
Mike tells of a situation where his wrong perception brought about great drama.
He says, “Where did my emotions come from in that process? Since I didn’t have all the facts, did the real drama come from the situation or from my interpretation of the situation? Could I have handled it differently? What about the next time something like that happens? Is there a way to respond differently?
“I realized that my problem was threefold: I didn’t have all the facts, so I made assumptions. I decided those assumptions were accu…

“God uses the unlikely.”

A thought by Craig Groeschel from his book, Dare to Drop the Pose (p. 153). The Crown Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.)
He does, he does.And that is so encouraging, isn’t it?
Craig asks, “So what have others told you that you can’t do? Be an effective teacher? Start a business? Raise great kids? Lead an organization? Get out of debt? Write a book? Lead a Bible study?
“God uses the unlikely.He may do through you what others say can’t be done. He loves to use people who others don’t believe are ready. God has put more in you than those around you can see. And He looks past what the world looks for. God isn’t searching for great looks, a full head of hair, the perfect figure, or the smartest or funniest person.
“God is looking at what He put in you: quiet faith, untapped courage, dormant gifts. Others look at the outside. God sees His perfect work on the inside.”
Craig goes on, “One of my favorite verses in the Bible is Acts 4:13.…