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“God is highly invested in relationships.”

A thought by John Townsend from his book, People Fuel (p. 19). Zondervan. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.)

Do you know this?  He is!

John says, “God is, at his essence, about love: ‘We know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them’ (1 John 4:16). And since love requires relationship, God is highly invested in relationships. He wants relationship with us, and he wants us to have relationships with each other.”

John goes on, “Needs bring us together, into relationship. Think about the opposite situation, a person living in a self-sufficient and isolated manner, say, someone who lives away from others in the wilderness, surviving on his own without a supportive community, a loner who insists on not being dependent on anything or anyone. While we might admire his strength, we don’t tend to make him a model for the whole and successful life.

“At the same time, we have a loner part of ourselves as well, which has difficulty feeling and expressing our needs. I call it the sourcer-sourcee conflict.”

John says, “We feel much more comfortable in the role of sourcer than in the role of sourcee. The sourcer is the one providing for, helping, assisting, and supporting another—being the need meeter. The sourcee is the one who needs the help.”

Why is that? One reason is, “Feeling weak. For some people, saying, ‘I need something from you’ doesn’t make them feel strong and stable. Instead they feel weak, helpless, incomplete. My response: Weakness is a normal and good part of life. We all go through weak times, sometimes several times a day. There is nothing wrong with that, if the need is getting met and it’s strengthening you to face the demands of reality. Feeling bad about weakness makes about as much sense as feeling bad about taking golf lessons because your swing is weak.”

Another one is, “Feeling selfish. At times people feel that asking for something is making a self-centered move. They should be more giving, so they don’t ask at all. My response: Certainly we aren’t to be self-centered. But putting gas in your tank isn’t selfish. It’s a way to make yourself useful and productive.”

Still another one, “Trust issues. Some people, unfortunately, have had painful relationships in which they learned that trusting and being vulnerable to someone important caused them hurt and rejection. Their response is to either isolate from others or become a consummate giver because that prevents them from ever having to be vulnerable again. My response: Don’t let the actions of one hurtful person keep you from all the great relationships God has for you. You will need to work through the hurt and stop projecting that person’s qualities onto humanity in general.”

After listing many others, John says, “God meets our needs from two directions: ‘vertically,’ through prayer, the Bible, the Holy Spirit, the spiritual disciplines, and surrender; and ‘horizontally,’ through people. We need both sources. In some way, we do not fully understand, God set up a system in which he alone (the vertical) is not enough. That system without the horizontal is, according to the Bible, ‘not good’ (Gen. 2:18).

Yes, it easier to be the one who others come to, to be the one who is the sourcer.  But God also wants us to reach out to Him and to others with our needs?  You do see, don’t you that He also wants us to be a sourcee even though it is easy?  

Yes, yes?

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