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“Bonding gives meaning to one’s accomplishments.”

A thought by Henry Cloud, from his book, Changes That Heal (p. 73). Zondervan. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.)

And we really do need meaning for what we do.

Leading up to this thought Henry said, “Bonded people are able to tolerate and to use constructively, time alone. Being alone does not mean they are isolated. . . bonded people have the love inside of them for whomever they are attached to. They have it stored up in their emotional tank, and it multiplies itself through a lifetime. Because they are not afraid of being alone, they can accomplish many things.

“They also know the real reason for work. They do not work to pile up possessions. They do not work to run from pain. They work for the family of humanity.

“One man I knew in real estate complained that his profession was meaningless. He was just ‘making money.’ He was emotionally detached, and his sense of accomplishment was totally task-oriented. Another very relational, loving man reported this about his job in real estate: ‘I love my work. I can exercise my talents and create good communities families can raise their kids in. I love the feeling of building developments that will provide jobs, offices, and safety for others.’ Here were two men doing the same work with a startling contrast in how they viewed that work.”

Henry goes on, “Bonding gives meaning to one’s accomplishments.  In addition, it fuels the rest of our development. Learning how to bond creates more ability to attach to others and enables us to develop in all the ways God designed.”

And that is a very good thing, isn’t it? 

Yes, yes
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