"All our understanding is built through communication."

A thought by David Roberts from his book, Healing Conversation (p. 54). Moran James Publishing. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.)

To connect and understand, we definitely need to communicate.

David says, "What is connection? It is the many shared moments that bind us together. What is required to have such connection? Our stories connect us. Shared experiences connect us. Laughter connects us, but underneath all of that we deeply connect through attentiveness, kindness, tenderness, and compassion."

He continues, "How do we understand the content of kindness, tenderness and compassion? We have to talk. The deepest way we have to share life, ideas, feelings and relationship is through meaningful conversations, whether written or spoken. The primary way we can learn, grow, connect, understand and become relationally involved is with our words. All our understanding is built through communication."

He goes on, "Talking at this deeper level is terrifying. Many of us have fallen into the habit of rigidly holding onto our own personal points of view. A deeper conversation would threaten to reveal these deeply held prejudices. Often, we would rather be right than connected. Clinging to our extreme or rehearsed views prevents deep, meaningful conversations. The longings of the people in these conversations get grievously ignored."

He then says, "Healing conversations are not formal. They do not follow a prescribed template or patter, like a phone solicitation script. These conversations are alive, dynamic, surprising, and refreshing. Growth takes place and so does the joy of connecting; of letting life pass through your lips from your heart and soul and listening with deep concentration. Each moment is unique, custom made."

And that is what we need, isn't it? Yes, yes!

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