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“To be successful, a person needs to be able to work well with others.”

A thought by John C. Maxwell, from his book, The Difference Maker (p. 37). HarperCollins Leadership. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.)

That is so important in so many different ways.

John says, “That’s why Theodore Roosevelt said, ‘The most important single ingredient in the formula for success is knowing how to get along with people.’

“Many factors come into play when it comes to skills working with people, but what makes or breaks that ability is a person’s attitude. I recently wrote a book called Winning with People in which I describe twenty-five people principles that anyone can use to become better at building relationships and working with others. Many of those principles are attitude-based. Here are some examples:

·      “The Lens Principle: Who we are determines how we see others. Our perception of others depends more on our attitude than it does their characteristics. If we are positive, we see them as positive.

·      “The Pain Principle: Hurting people hurt people and are easily hurt by them. Our negative experiences and emotional baggage color our perception of others’ actions. Normal interactions can cause us pain even when another person did nothing to inflict pain.

·      “The Elevator Principle: We can lift people up or take them down in our relationships. People possess a mind-set of either lifting or limiting others.

·      “The Learning Principle: Each person we meet has the potential to teach us something. Some people possess a teachable attitude, and they assume that they can learn something from everyone they meet. Others look down on many people and assume that they have nothing to offer.”

John then says, “When it comes to dealing with people, attitude makes a difference. If your track record of dealing with people isn’t as good as you would like it to be, maybe you need to look at your attitude. While it’s true that some people just seem to have a naturally winning way with others, even someone with limited natural people skills can learn to win with others if he decides to have a positive attitude toward people.”

It is so very important, isn’t it? 

Yes, yes

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