A thought by Kyle Idleman (2014-03-01)
from his book, AHA: The God Moment That Changes Everything (p. 120). David C. Cook. Kindle Edition.
(Click on the title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.)
Now you might want to know what
projection is, so Bill, what is it?
Well, Kyle gives a good definition of
it. He says, “Projection is when we
admit the reality of an unpleasant fact, but we deny responsibility. Denial is
refusing to admit the reality of an unpleasant fact, but projection is
admitting that the reality exists without taking responsibility for it. We just
blame someone else.” In other words we project our blame on someone else.
Kyle says, “Instead of taking
responsibility, we blame our spouse.”
He goes on, “Imagine that every day you
take a lunch with you to work, and every day it’s the same thing— chicken salad
sandwiches. You continually complain to your coworkers that it’s always chicken
salad sandwiches in your lunch. You are sick and tired of chicken salad
sandwiches. You even tell a coworker you’d rather die than eat one more chicken
salad sandwich. Finally, someone asks, ‘Why don’t you ask your wife to make you
something else?’ You reply, ‘Oh, actually I make lunch myself.’”
He then says, “That’s the reality for
many of us. We end up in the Distant Country living in very difficult
circumstances, and we make it sound like it’s someone else’s fault, when in
reality, we’ve made our own lunch.”
The truth is as Kyle says, “Projection
is much easier than brutal honesty. The problem is that it doesn’t get you out
of the pigpen.”
So are you usually taking
responsibility or giving out the blame?
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