A
thought by John C. Maxwell (2013-02-15) from his book, Be A People Person: Effective Leadership Through Effective Relationships
(p. 96). David C. Cook.
Kindle Edition.
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A person can be right and still loose an argument.
John says, “It’s because they don’t know when to quit.”
He goes on,
“There is a moment when you have marshaled all of the factual and emotional
issues in your favor and have expressed them as best you can. If you continue
to hammer away, you do nothing but build resentment in the person you are
trying to persuade.”
I’ve found
in arguments with my wife and yes we have disagreements. Back to the point, the way we stop arguments
is by one of us stopping in our well thought out argument and starting to listen,
really listen to what the other person is saying. When one does that it opens the door for the
other one to really express their feeling and then they also stop and
want to hear the other side. It is no
longer a conflict but a conversation between two people who love and respect
each other even though they disagree.
But back to
John’s point, he says, “There is great dignity in simplicity. Most of the
immortal works of literature not only have the brilliance of brevity but also
the dignity of simplicity. The Lord’s Prayer consists of only fifty-seven
words, none more than three syllables. The Declaration of Independence, which
revolutionized the thinking of the New World, can be read by a fourth-grader in
less than five minutes. Simplicity is eloquent; it speaks loud and clear
without insulting the intelligence of the listener.”
Very good
point. The longer you go the less they
hear and the more agitated they can get.
So do you go
on and on in stating your side?
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