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“An immature quality that is detrimental to personal relationships.”

A thought by John C. Maxwell (2013-02-15) From his book, Be A People Person: Effective Leadership Through Effective (p. 41). David C. Cook. Kindle Edition. (Click on the title of the book to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.)

Understanding what these immature qualities are is the first step in making our relationships better.  It shows what you and I need to work on.

John lists a few of these qualities:

One is “Moodiness.  Moody people are fickle and, thus, people who cannot be depended upon. Confidence is never built on a person who is subject to sullenness.” 

Another is, “Perfectionism. Perfectionism is an obsessive need to perform flawlessly. It stifles creativity and freedom and it turns people away. Perfectionists can rarely affirm themselves; therefore, it’s very difficult for them to affirm others.”

Oversensitivity. Oversensitive people are constantly licking their wounds. They look inward and are not aware of the needs of others. Naturally, people don’t flock around them.”

And “Negativism. A person with a constant negative attitude is depressing to be around. Their personality says no to life in general. Others will avoid a person like that.  There is no possibility of being a charismatic leader when no one wants to be around you.

Paul writes in Philippians 2: 3– 11, “Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves; do not merely look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others. Have this attitude in yourselves which was also in Christ Jesus, who, although He existed in the form of God, did not regard equality with God a thing to be grasped, but emptied Himself, taking the form of a bond-servant, and being made in the likeness of men. Being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross. For this reason, God highly exalted Him, and bestowed on Him the name which is above every name, so that at the name of Jesus every knee will bow, of those who are in heaven, and on earth, and under the earth, and that every tongue will confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.”

John then says, “There is no question that Jesus was and is highly exalted. But it began with the deepest of humility. Remember: Charisma is being more concerned about making others feel good about themselves than you are in making them feel good about you!”


So where do we begin?

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