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"The older we are, the more responsible we are for our situation."

A thought by John C. Maxwell (2012-10-02) from his book, The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth: Live them and Reach Your Potential (p. 164). Center Street. Kindle Edition.

I listen to people almost every day tell me why they are in the situation they are in and a big part of it is because of something else not them.  They play the blame game.
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Now if I am young and still at home and I don’t have a lot of control over my life then I am not totally responsible for where I am but if I am 65+ which I am, I can’t blame anyone else but me.  I am responsible for my life.  You see for the most part in my life I am where I am because of the choices I have made.

Someone said, “It’s my wife’s fault” but you chose to marry her.  “But it’s my boss, it’s his fault.  He’s holding me back.”  But you were not forced to work for him or to continue to work for him.

Now granted there are some things that are beyond our control but our attitude toward them is our choice and our responsibility.  Understand, you are only a victim if you choose to be a victim.

I am reading in my morning quiet time the letter of the Apostle Paul to the Christians in Rome.  Now Paul wrote this very important book of Roman in the New Testament while He was in prison.  He did choose to be an extreme follower of Christ which was the reason he was in prison but he also took responsibility to make a difference even in prison.  He wrote a big portion of the New Testament while there.  He didn’t waste time blaming his enemies and playing the victim card.  No, he set out to make a difference where he was.

John Maxwell here also says, “If you are merely average or if you are no closer to your dream this year than you were last year, you can choose to accept it, defend it, cover it up, and explain it away. Or you can choose to change it, grow from it, and forge a new path.”  It is our choice.

So how are you doing?

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