A thought by John C. Maxwell (2013-10-08) from his book, Sometimes You Win--Sometimes You Learn:Life's Greatest Lessons Are Gained from Our Losses (p. 59). Center Street. Kindle Edition.
And it also as John says, “is a recipe for continued failure.”
What about you and the negative situation you are in? Are you a victim, ready to blame someone else
for the problem or are you taking responsibility and heading into
solving the problem?
You understand that being a victim is a choice, a choice for
continued failure. Of course for some
that is the way they hopefully get attention but it is negative attention.
“Responsibility” as John says earlier in this chapter, “is
the most important ability that a person can possess.” It is the choice that can either make or
break your life. The choice to be a
victim totally gives up your choice of doing what you can do. It gives control of your life to circumstance
and to others.
It was said in Las Vegas where I lived that in some of the
wealthier schools that when a teacher had a problem with a student the parent
didn’t come talk with the teacher but they sent their lawyer. That is great way to teach your child that it
isn’t their fault and that they don’t need to take responsibility for their
actions. Now the teacher may be at fault
but how do you know if you don’t go and talk.
It sends a wrong message.
It is so important for us to realize the cause and effect of
our choices. Granted we are free to choose
but we need to learn and understand that we are not free of the consequences of
our choices. That is such an important
thing for us to learn and so many times this very important lesson is short-circuited
by parents. Please understand that “a
victim mind-set causes people to focus on what they cannot do instead of what
they can do.” It is your choice.
So are you tempted to being a victim?
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