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"A victim mind-set causes people to focus on what they cannot do instead of what they can do."


A thought by John C. Maxwell (2013-10-08) from his book, Sometimes You Win--Sometimes You Learn:Life's Greatest Lessons Are Gained from Our Losses (p. 59). Center Street. Kindle Edition.

And it also as John says, “is a recipe for continued failure.”

What about you and the negative situation you are in?  Are you a victim, ready to blame someone else for the problem or are you taking responsibility and heading into solving the problem? 

You understand that being a victim is a choice, a choice for continued failure.  Of course for some that is the way they hopefully get attention but it is negative attention.

“Responsibility” as John says earlier in this chapter, “is the most important ability that a person can possess.”  It is the choice that can either make or break your life.  The choice to be a victim totally gives up your choice of doing what you can do.  It gives control of your life to circumstance and to others.

It was said in Las Vegas where I lived that in some of the wealthier schools that when a teacher had a problem with a student the parent didn’t come talk with the teacher but they sent their lawyer.  That is great way to teach your child that it isn’t their fault and that they don’t need to take responsibility for their actions.  Now the teacher may be at fault but how do you know if you don’t go and talk.  It sends a wrong message.

It is so important for us to realize the cause and effect of our choices.  Granted we are free to choose but we need to learn and understand that we are not free of the consequences of our choices.  That is such an important thing for us to learn and so many times this very important lesson is short-circuited by parents.   Please understand that “a victim mind-set causes people to focus on what they cannot do instead of what they can do.”  It is your choice.

So are you tempted to being a victim?

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