"Love by itself is not enough, because love wears thin."

A thought by Dr. Kevin Leman (2013-02-01) from his book, Way of the Wise, The: Simple Truths forLiving Well (Kindle Location 577). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.

Now if your definition is that love is a sexual act then for sure that is true. You do it then it’s over. If your definition is love is an emotion, then for sure that wears thin. But if your definition is love is a choice then that can lead to 39 years together through good times and bad. Margaret and I celebrate that fact tomorrow.

Now there are parts of those other definitions in our love towards each other but the choice is what has kept us together.

Dr. Leman also says, “Love is not two young lovers entwined in each other’s arms, gazing moonstruck at the lake on a summer night. If you simply love your spouse, it’s not enough for the long haul. All the experts agree that the moony-eyed love— the honeymoon effect—lasts about two years. So what do you do between then and 48 years later, when you get your picture in the newspaper for your fiftieth anniversary and you both look wrinkled up like raisins? You must choose to love. You must be faithful to love.”

And I can tell you that the choice I made and continue to make is very much worth it. Happy Anniversary, Margaret. I love you, really love you?

What is your definition of love and is it working?

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