A thought by Chad Veach from his book, I Work with People (p. 50). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.)
This is another important belief you can use to counter the self-defeating self-talk, and it is worth repeating to yourself regularly.
Chad says, "I once heard someone say, 'I’ve decided to believe that everyone likes me unless they tell me otherwise.' I think that’s a wise philosophy. It’s so easy to take every sideways comment or joke as proof that yet another person is against you. Remember the old nursery rhyme, 'Nobody likes me, everybody hates me, guess I’ll eat some worms'? Don’t adopt that as a leadership philosophy. Or a diet, for that matter. Even mean people are rarely trying to be your enemy: actually, they probably don’t think about you that much. If you can give them and others the benefit of the doubt, they may eventually become your friends."
To say it a little differently, I live by the belief that I am not who I think I am, I am not who you think I am, I am who I think you think I am. And I have control over that. So I believe that everyone likes me. And that has made a great difference in how I reach out to people. So, would you give that a try? Would you?
Yes, yes!
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