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“We can’t keep growing emotionally if we isolate ourselves from others.”

A thought by Ken Blanchard & Morton Shaevitz (2015-02-02) from their book, Refire! Don't Retire:Make the Rest of Your Life the Best of Your Life (p. 31). Berrett-Koehler Publishers. Kindle Edition. (Click on the title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.)


We need people to fulfill who God wants us to be and to help us to mature.  God said that the first two main purposes that he has for us is to love him and to love other people.  It is a both and.  And the evil one does all he can to keep us from fulfilling his purpose in our life and to keep us from maturing.

Ken and Morton give insights into what we are to do to refire through telling a story.  And they use a couple named Harold and Wendy to give us good advice in the relational part of refiring. Harold says, “Wendy and I believe that feedback is the breakfast of champions. If you really get to know others well, you’ll grow close enough that they’ll be willing to praise you when you’re fun to hang around with and give you honest feedback when you’re being obnoxious or a stick in the mud.”

“So our suggestion for the emotional aspect of your journey to refire,” said Wendy, “is to get to really know each other, as well as the people around you. Be willing to take interpersonal risks and learn from them.”

And it is a risk but it is so rewarding and emotionally beneficial in our lives.  Granite there is potential pain but there is also great reward.  Jesus was rejected but it didn’t stop him from loving us and he also showed us how to handle it.  On the cross he said, “Father forgive them because they don’t know what they are doing.”  He will help in those difficult times and he will bring good out of them.  You see, we really do need each other.

So who are you going to reach out to today? 

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