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“Everyone has negative feelings at times…”

A thought by Ken Blanchard & Morton Shaevitz (2015-02-02) from their book, Refire! Don't Retire:Make the Rest of Your Life the Best of Your Life (p. 29). Berrett-Koehler Publishers. Kindle Edition. (Click on the title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.)

Now I know that doesn’t come as a surprise to you but that doesn’t mean we just accept that fact and do nothing about those negative feelings. 

Here is how the thought continues, “…and while we may not be able to control how we feel, we are responsible for how we react to those feelings. Whenever I feel anger building, I try to stop and take a deep breath. If I can, I might go for a short walk to calm down— because I know if I let that anger out, it’s not going to help the situation or make the world a better place.”

What do you do?  Do you let those negative feelings control you and your day?   Or do you creatively find a way to turn those negative feelings into something that will make as they say, “the world a better place” for those around you and even yourself.

Now I want to enjoy my life not endure it and I have determined by God’s help to take responsibility for my negative feelings and change them into the opposite, into positive feelings.  That is my choice.  I am not going to let my negative feelings have control, I control them.  Oh yes, I’m honest about them but I don’t dwell on them or rehearse them but I release them and creatively find a way to change them. 

That’s what an adult does and I am an adult.

So what do you do with your negative feelings?  

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