A thought by John Townsend from his book, Loving People (p.27). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) It really is but is that true love? John says, “One of the most important realities of the nature of love is that the ‘lovability’ of the other person is ultimately irrelevant. Said another way, the more we require that the other person be lovable in order for us to care, the less loving we are. The converse is also true: the less we require the person to be lovable, the more loving we are.” He goes on, “This is not an easy reality, but it is true just the same. It is certainly much more natural to care about those who care for us. But what is natural is not always what is mature and what is best. For example, my friend Donna is married to a man named Dylan, who can be quite self-centered and controlling. Dylan has been unkind to Donna, though he rarely admits or owns it when he does. He is not abusive or unfait
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