"Bad experiences based on stupidity usually come from lack of discipline and poor choices."

A thought by John C. Maxwell (2013-10-08) from his book, Sometimes You Win--Sometimes You Learn:Life's Greatest Lessons Are Gained from Our Losses (pp. 170-171). Center Street. Kindle Edition.

That is always a good place to start in honestly looking at a bad experience. You ask the question, “What part did I play in this bad experience?” It is so easy to make excuses and play the blame game but that doesn’t help in stopping them from recurring again.

John says, “Changing those requires not only teachability but also a change in behavior. If you don’t make those changes, the bad experiences will likely keep coming and keep getting worse.” In other words, don’t waste the bad experience, learn the lesson.

Now looking at ourselves is hard for most of us. We have problems with accepting our doing anything wrong and we then have real problems with stopping problems from recurring. But somehow we need to humble themselves and accept that we make mistakes so we can keep the problem from recurring.

It was my spouse’s fault. They pay the bills. And that may be true but you married them and you didn’t ask enough questions because you were afraid of conflict. Don’t stick your head in the sand. Speak the truth in love and strive to be a part of the solution. That is also why it is so important to really know who you are marrying. Get some good honest premarriage counseling. Find out before it is too late. Accept responsibility for choosing who you marry.

Bad experiences based on stupidity usually come from lack of discipline and poor choices. So just be honest, accept your part in the problem, learn from it and strive to not do the same thing over and over again. I know it can be hard but it will make a difference.

So what are you doing to keep it from happening again?

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