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“Love is not about how many people we have used, but about how much we have cherished one person.”

A thought by Erwin Raphael McManus, (2006-11-14) from his book, Soul Cravings: An Exploration of the Human Spirit (p. 19). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition.

Many people don’t realize that what they have is so great.  They can take it for granted and look over the fence and think that the grass is greener over there.  But the truth is the grass is greener where you feed it and water it.

There are so many who wish that they could be with someone who really cherishes them.  So many at thirty have been used to the point that they think that is all love is about,  Some of those are even married but there is more than that.

Listen, real authentic love is not self-seeking but other-minded.  There is real authentic love out there.  Now it starts with a real authentic relationship with God.  That is where you initially get that kind of love. 

David in the psalms said that in sin did my mother conceive me.  That means we came into this world as self-seeker, as users.  I want what I want and I want it now.  Now Jesus, God’s Son came to show us what other-minded or cherishing was all about.  He told His Father, not my will but Yours be done.  He loved so much that He gave up His needs for others.  And He will give us a real authentic love that will cherish someone and love someone the way we were meant to love and be loved.  A relationship with Him is where it starts.  He will change you from a self-seeker, user to an other-minded, cherisher.

So start looking for real authentic love in the right place.  He doesn’t want you to be used or a user but to be one who cherishes and is cherished.   Check out your relationship with Him then go from there.

So have you really loved?  

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