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A thought by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend from their book, It's Not My Fault . (pg. 25) Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) Diversion can be a positive thing in some insistences but not here. The guys say, “It diverts us from having to do whatever we could to make the situation better. Making the situation better may involve a lot of work, pain, or change on our part. That is a big reason why more people do not do it. It’s easier to divert attention from their responsibility by blaming. It is far easier to say, ‘The economy is bad, and there are no jobs,’ than to get a degree in another field or to knock on a few hundred business doors. “It is far easier to say that one is unhappy because his or her significant other is not very relational than to learn new patterns of relating that could repair the relationship. It is far easier to give in to one more hamburger ad than to attend a few Weight Wat

A thought by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend from their book, It's Not My Fault .    (pg. 21) Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) That is something we really don't want to be good at, do we? The guys say, “We do not need any new ones, for the old ones work just fine. Think about it. Look back at the failures you’ve experienced in relationships, moods, goals, careers, habits, or whatever. They all tend to follow the same path. Meet the guy, get enamored, have him chase you, adapt to whatever he wants, have a good season, he loses interest, you try to win him back, and then finally he is gone. And then repeat that in the next seven relationships. “Or, experience a strong desire for a certain relationship, have it disappointed, have the argument, get stuck in the conflict, become estranged, come back together and not resolve it, and wait for the next go-round. “There are many examples of these

A thought by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend from their book, It's Not My Fault . (pg. 19) Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) I know, I know, life can be tough, it really can be.   It may be for you. Henry and John say, “Do not get stuck in protesting reality for what it ‘ought to be.’ If you give up the demand that life and the people in it be something other than what they are, you will find creative solutions to every difficult situation. And you will be a more loving person. “And, before you get pessimistic that the person you care about can never change, that is not what we are saying...   you must take ownership for your own situation, whatever it is. If your difficulty is a non-supportive husband or wife, accept the reality of the problem and take ownership of dealing with it. Then and only then will you be able to find the best solution. If you just remain stuck and complain that he or she o