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A thought by John C. Maxwell (2013-02-15) from his book, Be A People Person: Effective Leadership Through Effective Relationships (p. 96). David C. Cook. Kindle Edition. ( Click on the title of the book to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) A person can be right and still loose an argument.   John says, “It’s because they don’t know when to quit.” He goes on, “There is a moment when you have marshaled all of the factual and emotional issues in your favor and have expressed them as best you can. If you continue to hammer away, you do nothing but build resentment in the person you are trying to persuade.” I’ve found in arguments with my wife and yes we have disagreements.   Back to the point, the way we stop arguments is by one of us stopping in our well thought out argument and starting to listen, really listen to what the other person is saying.   When one does that it opens the door for the other one to really express their feeling and then they also stop and want to h

A thought by John C. Maxwell (2013-02-15) from his book, Be A People Person: Effective Leadership Through Effective Relationships (p. 83). David C. Cook. Kindle Edition. ( Click on the title of the book to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) There are lots of ways to persuade but to be effective in our persuading is another thing.   As John says, “It speaks to the heart as well as to the head. Therefore, persuasion does not make use of force or intimidation.” But we believe that intimidation is effective because we found it to be successful.   At least we’ve seen people do what we want.   But people are more important than getting our way, aren’t they? John says, “Getting someone to do something without convincing them it’s the right thing to do is not the result of effective motivation; it’s the result of intimidation. It’s like the mom who told the little kid to sit down in the grocery cart at the supermarket. He kept standing up and she kept telling him to sit down. Fi

A thought by John C. Maxwell (2013-02-15) From his book, Be A People Person: Effective Leadership Through Effective Relationships (p. 74). David C. Cook. Kindle Edition. ( Click on the title of the book to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) That is so important to realize.   John goes on, “The key is to use a crisis as an opportunity for change. You’ll never succeed if you throw up your hands and surrender.” He then quotes the Greek poet Homer who understood the value of a crisis. He wrote, “Adversity has the effect of eliciting talents which in prosperous circumstances would have lain dormant.” John goes on, “Remember the story of the chicken farmer whose land was flooded virtually every spring? Even though the floods caused him horrendous problems, he refused to move. When the waters would back up onto his land and flood his chicken coops, he would race to move his chickens to higher ground. Some years, hundreds of them drowned because he couldn’t move them out in t