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A thought by John C. Maxwell from his book, Everyone Communicates, Few Connect . (p. 37). HarpersCollins Leadership Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) So how do you do that? John says, “I believe you do it by answering three questions that people always ask themselves when interacting with others, whether as a client, customer, guest, audience member, friend, colleague, or employee. “1. ‘DO YOU CARE FOR ME?’ “Mutual concern creates connection between people. Aren’t there certain friends and family members you simply want to spend time with? That desire comes from your connection with them. What’s wonderful is that you can broaden your ability to care about others beyond your personal social circle. If you can learn to care about others, you can connect with them. You can help them. And you can make both your life and their lives better. It doesn’t matter what your profession is.” He goes on, “Whenever you can help

A thought by John C. Maxwell from his book, Everyone Communicates, Few Connect . (p. 29). HarpersCollins Leadership Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) This so important for all of us to see. John says, “It’s about the person with whom I’m communicating. Similarly, when you are trying to connect with people, it’s not about you—it’s about them. If you want to connect with others, you have to get over yourself. You have to change the focus from inward to outward, off of yourself and onto others. And the great thing is that you can do it. Anyone can. All it takes are the will to change your focus, the determination to follow through, and the acquisition of a handful of skills! “Why do so many people miss this? I think there are many reasons, but I can tell you why I missed it and why I thought communicating and working with others was all about me.” The first one he says is, “IMMATURITY.   He goes on, “Maturity is the

A thought by John C. Maxwell from his book, Everyone Communicates, Few Connect . (p.20). HarpersCollins Leadership Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) It is so important. John says, “Why? Because 80 to 90 percent of all connecting occurs on this level, and this is where you connect with the people who are most important to you. “How good are you at connecting with friends, family, colleagues, and coworkers? To increase your influence one-on-one: • Talk more about the other person and less about yourself. Prepare two or three questions you can ask someone before a meeting or social gathering. • Bring something of value, such as a helpful quote, story, book, or CD, to give to someone when you get together. • At the close of a conversation, ask if there is anything you can do to help them and then follow through. Acts of servanthood have a resounding impact that live longer than words.” Now connecting in a group is