"... life has a way of changing, modifying, and redefining what success in relationship looks like for all of us."

A thought by Michael Todd, from his book, Relationship Goals (p. 17). The Crown Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.)

It really does.

Michael says, "Let’s say you’re single and ready to mingle and you’ve made a list of things you want in a significant other. One could be 'He’s got to be at least this tall and make this much money' or 'She’s got to have the cute face and a tiny waist.' This shows that most of our lists tend to be a little (or a lot) superficial and might reflect not what we actually need in a partner but more of just what we want at the time. I assure you, life has a way of changing, modifying, and redefining what success in relationship looks like for all of us."

He continues, "When I’m going on a road trip, I usually tell my phone where I want to go, and it gives me directions on how to get there. But success for the journey happens only if I’ve given my phone the right destination. Let’s say I’ve planned to take my family on vacation to Disney World in Florida, but I get careless and accidentally say to my phone, 'Grand Canyon.' Then I just mindlessly follow the directions electronically spoken to me by my phone. Do you think I’ll arrive at the correct destination? Of course not. My kids will be looking for Mickey Mouse, but all they’ll see is a bunch of dusty rocks. On top of that, I can guarantee there will be disappointment, frustrated expectations, wasted resources, and lost time."

He goes on, "My point is, many of us are tapping in our own destinations for relationships, but they are not necessarily the goals that we should really be pursuing. We should follow a plan (directions) that will get us to the goal (destination) that we actually want to reach.

"Let’s be honest—many of us make plans that fail, even though they seemed really good at the time."

Proverbs 14:12 says, "There is a path before each person that seems right, but it ends in death. "

He later says, "It’s good to take aim at relationship goals. That’s a whole lot better than just passively letting society or the media or our family experience teach us how to do relationships. But we also have to make sure we have the right goals, ones that will contribute to the life we ought to be leading. For that, we have to go to the source of meaning."

He then says, "I believe the beauty of life is being a part of something that is way bigger than yourself. It’s God’s plan."

And that is so true, isn't it? Yes, yes! #continuethought