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"... having a goal without aim is senseless..."


A thought by Michael Todd, from his book, Relationship Goals (p. 15). The Crown Publishing Group. Kindle Edition.  (Click on the book title to go to Amazon to buy the book.)

The whole thought says, "The truth is, having a goal without aim is senseless, but having a goal without God is pointless."


Michael continues that thought, "Many of us don’t have our aim directed when it comes to relationships. We take whatever comes. We do whatever’s comfortable. But we don’t really know where we’re going or why."

He says, "Many of us don’t have our aim directed when it comes to relationships. We take whatever comes. We do whatever’s comfortable. But we don’t really know where we’re going or why.

"Don’t believe me? Have you ever known a girl who dated pretty much any guy who happened to show an interest in her, without ever stopping to think about the kind of guy who would really be right for her? Or a couple who have dated for a long time and have gotten so comfortable with it that they aren’t making any move toward marriage? Or a married couple who have let their former passion turn into a business partnership for child rearing and home maintenance?"

He goes on, "Don’t feel like I’m trying to pick on you or lock you into something. I don’t know you well enough to do that. Truth is, biblical principles are unchanging, but we’re at different places and we can have a variety of relationship goals within the guardrails that God has set up. So, relax and remember…you don’t have to have your whole life figured out from the start. Your relationship goals can, and actually should, change over time. You aren’t doomed if you’ve made a mistake; every one of us has access to heavenly redemption. I should know.

"What I am asking is, What is your goal? And what I’m suggesting is for you to align your goal with God’s goals for relationships. Set the target and sure up your aim so that the relationship arrow of your life doesn’t go astray."

He then says, "So, maybe you’re the kind of person who somehow has never gotten around to making conscious relationship goals and has just fallen into the relationship ruts. But more than likely you’ve got some kind of goals, targets, or markers of success in mind when it comes to relationships. That’s better. Still, even if you do have targets, I want you to be open minded about whether these are the right targets. You might need to reexamine them. Because, see, it’s possible to have a target for your arrow that’s the wrong target."

This is a great place to start. No matter our age and relational situation we need help, don't we? Yes, yes #continuethought

 




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