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“Just because someone in our past hurt us doesn’t mean everyone in our future will.”

A thought by Christine Caine from her book, Unexpected: Leave Fear Behind, Move Forward in Faith, Embrace the Adventure (p. 96). Zondervan. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.)

But it is so easy to believe that to be true, isn’t it?  But it doesn't need to!  But we all have at one time in our life been hurt by someone.

Christine said, “Imagine if I’d let my broken heart hold me back every time it has been broken. I certainly wouldn’t have been whole enough to be the kind of mother Sophia needed that night when she poured out all her hurt to me. And in my marriage, I wouldn’t be the kind of wife that I’ve learned to be. I would be making Nick pay for things he’d never done because my actions toward him would all be rooted in past hurts and abuse inflicted by other people—some going all the way back to kindergarten.” 

She continues, “Isn’t that what we do when we have unresolved relational wounds? We carry them from one relationship to the next. A new boss shouldn’t have to deal with all the wounds from a former boss who didn’t know how to lead, guide, and coach us in a healthy manner. A new friend shouldn’t have to be assessed based on how the last friend hurt us. A new spouse should never have to pay for what an ex-spouse did. But if we don’t invite Jesus in to heal us from the wounds of past relationships, then that’s exactly what will happen, whether we realize it or not. We’ll hold back, fearful of opening up our hearts freely, unable to understand that just because someone in our past hurt us doesn’t mean everyone in our future will.

If you have been hurt would you invite Jesus in to heal you from your wounds from those past relationships?  Would you?


Yes, yes!
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