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“To build a strong family, you have to make your home a supportive environment.”

A thought by John C. Maxwell (2016-02-02) from his book, 3 Things Successful People Do: The Road Map That Will Change Your Life (p. 153). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition. (Click on the title of the book to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.)

John quotes Psychologist William James who observed, “In every person from the cradle to the grave, there is a deep craving to be appreciated.”

I’m 69 and I still crave to be appreciated and I know you do too if you're really honest.

John goes on, “Feeling appreciated brings out the best in people. And when that appreciation comes in the home and is coupled with acceptance, love, and encouragement, the bonds between family members grow, and the home becomes a safe haven for everyone.”

And that is what home is supposed to be. But in so many cases that is not what it is.  It is more of a tear down than a build up or a battle ground than a safe haven.  And that is a major problem.  I’ve heard people say that the problem with America today is that they took prayer out of the schools and I understand why they say that.  But I also feel that one of the major problems in the world is that we have taken appreciation, acceptance, love and encouragement from our homes.  

John says, “All of us have a blend of strengths and weaknesses in each area that makes us unique. And once you have a good understanding of how the other members of your family are designed, it becomes easier for you to be more sensitive to each other and to express love for each other.”

He goes on, “I’ve heard that for every negative remark to a family member, it takes four positive statements to counteract the damage. That’s why it’s so important to focus on the positive aspects of each other’s personality and express unconditional love for each other, both verbally and nonverbally. Then the home becomes a positive environment for everyone.”

And that is what we really want.  Isn't it?  So where are we going to start today?

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