A thought by Daniel Goleman; Richard Boyatzis
& Annie McKee, (2013-07-23) from their book, Primal Leadership, With a New Preface by the Authors: Unleashing the Power of Emotional Intelligence (Kindle Locations 618-619). Harvard
Business Review Press. Kindle Edition. (Click on the title to go to
Amazon.com to buy the book.)
In finishing the
statement they say, “…and less able to understand them in others. Self-aware
leaders are attuned to their inner signals. They recognize, for instance, how
their feelings affect themselves and their job performance. Instead of letting
anger build into an outburst, they spot it as it crescendos and can see both
what’s causing it and how to do something constructive about it. Leaders who
lack this emotional self-awareness, on the other hand, might lose their temper
but have no understanding of why their emotions push them around.”
Know thyself is so important. At one point I realized that my moodiness was
hurting me in my relationships. I was
hard to be around. My wife, Margaret has
said that if she really knew how moody I was she might not have married me. I’m glad for my sake she didn’t really know
me but I eventually saw the problem and I determined to take control of it. I don’t believe I am as moody as I was but
when I do see the signs I strive to do what I can to control them. And I do that by stopping and talking to
myself about what could happen if I stayed in that mood and how I would like it
if I saw it in someone else. I then stop
being in the mood and change it. It is
called self-awareness and self-control.
So what is your area you need to control?
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