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“If you don’t want to tell those closest to you about a decision you are going to make, it’s probably not a good decision.”

A thought by Greg Darley (2010-11-15) from his book, Passion Is Not Enough: Four Elements to Change the World (Kindle Locations 914-915). Backstage Publishing. Kindle Edition.

People are so very important in our lives.  It is sometimes so easy to just hibernate and not let anybody in but that is not God’s plan.  He looked at Adam when He created Him and said that it was not good that He was alone so He created Eve. 

But in our decision making we many times don’t want anybody to mess us up with their opinion so we isolate ourselves.  Now you don’t need a lot of people involved in this area but you do need those who are closest to be there with their experience and thoughts. 

Now this is not something that I am good at.  I am good at having thoughts about other people of having a lot of options for them but I’m not real good with involving others in my own decisions.  This thought kind of hits me where I live.  I think it is a pride thing and in no way is that good.  I don’t like any negativity so I stay away from any potential different opinion.  I can now see that as a weakness in me.  That is probably why I liked being a church planter.      

What about you?  Do you also possess a very high opinion of your ability to make decisions on your own?  Of course we do need confidence but arrogance is something else.

God is still working on me.  I haven’t even at 65+ arrived there yet.  I still have some growing to do and I’m sure you do too.  I’m also not through with some decisions to be made and I pray I will open up more with those closest to me. 

Thanks Greg for the good thought.

Is this also an area that you have problems in?

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