“We can never be free as long as we’re in the habit of lying to ourselves about the reasons behind the choices we make and the paths we take.”

A thought by Andy Stanley (2009-03-31) in his book, The Principle of the Path: How to Get from Where You Are to Where You Want to Be (p. 73). Thomas Nelson. Kindle Edition.

So much of the dishonesty is that we play the blame game which is to be lame. It is so easy to say it’s my parent’s fault, the way they raised me. Or it’s my spouses fault, they made me do this. I didn’t really want to do it. But somewhere we have to be honest as to why we are on the path.

The Bible says, “the truth will set you free”. And that is where you start?

Just be honest. Why do I choose the wrong people to have a relationship with, people who will hurt me, people who are totally selfish, and people who have a track record of no commitment? Why have I continually chosen that path of failure?

You start with a question? That is the first step in being honest. Why did you choose this path? And for many that is a difficult thing to do because it puts the results back on you not someone else. You quit blaming and start confessing.

Then you ask God and a good friend to help you with the answer. God created you and He knows you better than anyone else. He knows your heart. Go to Him. And also ask someone who really knows you. But you say, “But that is a humbling thing to do.” And you are right. Pride is the enemy of honesty. Do you want to head down the path of right choices instead of the habit of making wrong choices? It starts with asking for help which leads to some really hard, humbling, honest questions.

Then you sit down and start writing down or confessing to God or sharing with a friend what you really honestly believe is the reasons why you keep heading down the wrong path. That’s where it starts.

And then you start down the right path with the right reasons with God’s guidance and help.

Does that mean you find that Mister Right? Maybe not but at least you will quit the vicious cycle of constantly being hurt and connecting with Mister Wrong.

So where do you need to start being honest?

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