A thought by Jentezen Franklin from his book, Love Like You've Never Been Hurt: Hope, Healing and the Power of an Open Heart (p. 37). Baker Publishing Group. Kindle Edition. (Click on the book title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.)
Now you notice, he says fight for your family not in your family. There are a lot of fights in families, but there needs to be more fighting for our family.
Jentezen says, “When conflict breaks out in your home when your child is doing something he or she is not supposed to be doing, remind yourself of these tips to help you work through the process.
“1. Attack the problem, not the person. You are all on the same team, so do not take out your frustrations on your loved ones.
“2. Get all the facts before you offer advice or solutions. Think before you speak. Nothing is more damaging than jumping to conclusions.
“3. Look for positives. No matter how bad things get, in every situation, you can always find something positive. Look for it.
“4. Never withhold your love, no matter how rough the going gets. It is okay to tell your loved ones how you feel, but make sure they know you love them unconditionally. When people feel loved and supported, they can weather just about any crisis.
“5. Check your words. Your words are like nitroglycerin. They can either blow up bridges or heal hearts. You will be amazed at the results when you refrain from hurtful words. Speak words that build others up. If you do not know what to say, say nothing.”
Your work can be a family, your church can be a family, your friends can be a family and you will find that it really takes work and effort to fight for your family. It is easy to tear them down but it takes work and effort to build them up. It really does. But it is worth it. They are gifts from God to you and they need you to fight for them. So will you? Will you fight for your family?