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“I talk with people who say they struggle with a general sense of anger.”

A thought by Kyle Idleman (2014-03-01) from his book, AHA: The God Moment That Changes Everything (p. 150). David C. Cook. Kindle Edition. (Click on the title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) Is that true of you?   It probably is or it is for somebody you’re close to.   That’s why the thought got your attention. Kyle says, “When there is an awakening without action, it always leads to guilt. You feel guilty that you aren’t living your life in a way that is consistent with your convictions. Guilt almost always surfaces in anger. Anger, of course, is a secondary response.”   He goes on, “I talk with people who say they struggle with a general sense of anger. It’s not that they’re angry toward a certain person or about a specific situation; they just feel angry. They try to dismiss it. They say, ‘Well, that’s just the way I am … I’m just wired that way.’”   Have you ever said that? He then says, “If that describes you at all, then let me ask you a question. Don’t

“We all have a tendency toward projection in marriage.”

A thought by Kyle Idleman (2014-03-01) from his book, AHA: The God Moment That Changes Everything (p. 120). David C. Cook. Kindle Edition. (Click on the title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) Now you might want to know what projection is, so Bill, what is it? Well, Kyle gives a good definition of it.   He says, “Projection is when we admit the reality of an unpleasant fact, but we deny responsibility. Denial is refusing to admit the reality of an unpleasant fact, but projection is admitting that the reality exists without taking responsibility for it. We just blame someone else.”  In other words we project our blame on someone else. Kyle says, “Instead of taking responsibility, we blame our spouse.” He goes on, “Imagine that every day you take a lunch with you to work, and every day it’s the same thing— chicken salad sandwiches. You continually complain to your coworkers that it’s always chicken salad sandwiches in your lunch. You are sick and tired of chicken

“Sometimes the hardest conversation to have is the one you have with yourself.”

A thought by Kyle Idleman (2014-03-01) from his book, AHA: The God Moment That Changes Everything (p. 85). David C. Cook. Kindle Edition. (Click on the title to go to Amazon.com to buy the book.) And we all know that is the truth.   It is so hard to be brutally honest with ourselves isn’t it? Kyle in this book is using the story of the Prodigal Son as the biblical basis for his thoughts.   Maybe you remember the story of this young son who came to his father and asked him to give him his inheritance before time and he then went out and blew it all.   Finely he finds himself in a pigpen feeding pigs and he says, “How many of my father’s hired servants have food to spare, and here I am starving to death! I will set out and go back to my father and say to him: Father, I have sinned against heaven and against you. I am no longer worthy to be called your son; make me like one of your hired servants.” (Luke 15: 17– 19) Kyle says, “He was honest with himself about what he dese